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| Nov 01, 2007 7:35 am |
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All Change |
croz
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Why is it that we humans have rearranged the natural ways to such an extent that we make things more difficult.
In nature the old impart knowledge and guidance to the young. With humans nine times out of ten the young and old cannot even communicate, yes they talk, but are they communicating, there is a difference.
Many years ago families were a much tighter knit body and normally the son followed Dad into his occupation, and the daughters were taught the domestic things by Mum.
The young accepted the advice and knowledge without question and consequently could avoid a lot of the things that crop up while we are growing up. Of course there was still the exuberance of youth, and kids would rebel and do things that they regarded as research, to prove if Dad and Mum really knew that what they were saying was correct.
Whether that system was right or wrong, it did have structure and it generally produced young adults that could leave the nest and at least cope.
Because of the need for both parents, generally having to work flat out, just to standstill, it has fragmented the family group and structure that evolved over thousands of year.
Sitting down together as a family is becoming a rare event.
It was the family unit that taught our kids all sorts of things, in the best possible way, by example. I am not saying that life was perfect in those days, far from it, but it was more encompassing and everyone felt a bit more secure. It was the norm that Mum was at home when you got in from school.
As families needed more income to afford all the new appliances and labour saving devices, we saw the advent of the ‘latch key kid ‘ I distinctly remember putting my hand through the letterbox to get the key hanging on the ribbon inside.
I am in no way advocating a return to these [selective memory ] idyllic days, but I do think that we should accept things as they are, and try to find a way to communicate between the young and the old.
Things are changing at such a rate and it is no wonder that our kids are confused, it makes sense then to try and find some common ground, that we can all identify with, and use that as a foundation to try and really establish some lines of genuine communication.
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