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| Sep 28, 2008 5:09 pm |
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re: I need ideas, please |
Paula Millar
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Hum...
Depends on where you are living for sure. You have lived in a completly different environment for a long time. They sense that, fear that, and regard that as way too new to trust that... i don't know. I don't mean to be the preveyor of bad news but I grew up on a small town. My folks had a restuarant there for 30 years. Small towns can be vicious in their demeanor and culture. You have to realize the fish bowl you are swimming in first. I would start to network in a peripheral way. Do you belong to a church, participate in local activities, school events, get to know as many people as will let you..
I have a sister who moved to Iowa. When we were younger we would never want to wait on the farmers from Iowa they are totally not tippers. They would even some times mock us and make us work hard with may extra trips with water or coffer just to manipulate us and then not leave any money. When My sister and her husband moved their years later nothing had changes. They build a house there. Karl her husband and an industrial arts teacher has build houses every place they have lived. He knew how to make relationships with local vendors, trade sometimes and just have all around good will from vendors supporting him to build his house and come back to their business to do more business. Not so where they lived in Iowa. People were so cold and strange and non of the building Vendors would ever give and inch on prices or give discounts or throw in something else for free.. Good will, none. You couldn't get into any town meetings unless you knew someone who had lived there a long time. They were so rude in that town because they were outsiders that as soon and my sister and her husband built the house they sold it and came back to Minnesota where people are much more friendly.
It is a reality I have found. There can be a certain culture designed to the negative side of things in small towns ( it feels like the 1900's) and I am not saying that I haven't found and experienced many small towns that were pleasant and a joy to spend some time in.
Some towns do have kind of a code and you have to figure it out.. Get to know someone who has been on the inside for a long time and is willing to help you make some inroads in if you can...
So it can be with some towns you need to figure out the lay of the land.
I lived in even a fairly large community here in Washington and it kind of like a small town here. Pastors meet and exchange information about people in the congregations that move on to new church and the pastors will warn the next guy if they didn't get along with that person.. When you meet people here they want to know immediately what church you belong to because it is a real church going community. etc...
Be careful regarding your first impressions. If you are verbose or strange or different ( hard not to be coming from a different environment) you could be doomed in some town. I know business people in my own home town that packed up and closed shop because people would just not accept them. it was just the baker for goodness sake.
Be responsible for the you are different, make and effort to blend in. Don't make waves for awhile.. take is slow.. if you can.
Good Luck
Paula Mary
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