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Feel Free to Prosper for Business: Metaphysical Marketing (Here on the Network)Views: 477
Feb 16, 2008 9:59 am Metaphysical Marketing: Feel Free to Prosper for Your Business (Saturday)

Marilyn Jenett
Metaphysical Marketing Workshop

Overcoming the Fear of Asking for Business

The key, the secret to getting over the fear of asking for business is this...

Fear comes from focus on the self - self consciousness and self involvement. Thoughts and emotions are centered on you.

So then...what we must do to overcome fear is to shift our thinking to the other person - our potential customer or client. In our thoughts and emotions, we now change our focus to make it all about "them" - their needs, their goals, how we can be of help to benefit them. We hold the thought that we are providing a valuable service and product and wish to enhance the life experience of the other person.

It is an absolute fact that the mind cannot hold two opposing thoughts at the same time. Really.

And it is another insidious fact that the thoughts that we do hold will eventually realize themselves as reality in our lives.

So it is of utmost importance that we deal with this issue of fear and once and for all, claim victory over it.

How can we do this?

Let me tell you about one of my all time favorite teachers and influences. No, I didn't know him personally, but he was a great influence on my life and we have all heard of his work, even if we didn't know him as the source...

Émile Coué was a French psychologist and pharmacist in the 1800s and early 1900s who introduced a method of psychotherapy, healing, and self-improvement based on optimistic autosuggestion. He is often considered the "father" of the New Thought movement.

The application of his familiar conscious suggestion, "Every day, in every way, I'm getting better and better" (Tous les jours à tous points de vue je vais de mieux en mieux), is the best known example of what is often called Couéism or the Coué method.

The Coué method depended on the conscious suggestion that the subject was required to repeat in early morning and before going to sleep at night.

Coué opened a free clinic at Nancy in 1910.  He later toured America, where he popularized the phrase as part of his therapeutic method. Conscious suggestion has since become an integral element in many popular systems of healing and self-improvement.

Coué also gave us another revelation. He demonstrated that when there is a conflict between the imagination and will power, the imagination wins every time. Here is his famous quote...

"When the imagination and will power are in conflict, are antagonistic,
it is always the imagination which wins, without any exception."

Coué’s teachings during his life time were more popular in Europe than in America, many who took on his teaching in America went on to become famous themselves for spreading the ‘gospel’ of his words. Notably, Norman Vincent Peale, Robert Schuller, W. Clement Stone and others. To this day, most of us have heard his affirmation...

"Every day in every way, I am getting better and better."

Coué’s discovery amounts to is that thoughts that fill our mind tend to realize themselves; when thoughts are dwelled upon, the mind tends to transform them into action if it accepts them. Whatever we think becomes true for us. Or to put it another way...what you focus on is what you get.

In other words, if you can get a person to think and believe that they are getting better, they will do so. Secondly. he says that the imagination (unconscious) always dominates the will. If we try to control our actions through the use of our will, we shall fail, unless our will happens to be in agreement with our imagination. If we can control our thoughts - our imagination - then we can control our actions. Thus we should always try to think that we are healthy rather than ill, happy rather than sad, and successful rather than a failure. And confident and poised rather than fearful.

The problem then is one of implanting the proper thoughts in the mind.

Coué says that it is impossible for the mind to accept two thoughts at the same time; that is, when a person is thinking two contradictory thoughts they will not be accepted. If, however, a person dwells upon one thought only, this thought will penetrate the unconscious and be acted upon.

So, in summary, I ask...

What thoughts will you dwell on today and tomorrow. Fear? Confidence? Poise?

That decision will determine your victory over fear. And with regard to asking for business?

If you remain centered and poised, and if the other person is not receptive, then you can remain confident that your heart and mind were in the right place - you really did wish to help them - and you carry on, knowing that you just had a valuable rehearsal. :-) But surprisingly, your outward focus on the other person without attachment to the end result, will result in many more people being receptive to your offerings.

~ Marilyn


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