| Althea Garner
One of my strengths (I would like to believe) is the ablility to take responsibility for my actions. I accept that I am totally responsible for what happens around me (barring the accident scenario) and therefore am at cause with my life.
It is too easy to say "I couldn't do that because.... (and then blame someone or something else) and I am not insinuating that this is Karen's problem - you asked and I am relating my own experience. However, to be able to say, "I screwed up, but what I learned from this mistake, is....." is far more valuable.
Bottom line is that none of us can learn without making mistakes, therefore mistakes can be regarded as a victory.
> Eric Sohn wrote:
Has anyone else had Karen's experience? How did you deal with it?
What kind of result would you like? For example, is it to prevent conflict, to "win" at conflicts more, to be more assertive... or ?
Also, correct me if I'm wrong, but the owning up to mistakes is part of the conflict issue, isn't it? If you notice a mistake before being confronted, do you own up to it? If not, what do you do?
>> Karen Stafford wrote:
>> For me, it's handling conflict or owning up to a business mistake. Actually, I do own up to them, but I still have trouble doing it, and walking away thinking "What did I learn from this?" instead of "Oh, you stupid idiot, you're life's ruined":-)Part of that comes from working on organization. Sometimes, though, the conflict is through no fault of my own, and I had trouble being assertive enough to stand up for myself, so I'd like to improve on my documentation to back myself up.
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