steve chichester
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Hi Sue, I dont think these can be separated from each other: communication skills, personal boundaries, self confidence and managing their lives effectively are interelated.
All depend on a clearly stated objective or set of objectives. Whether one is working with an individual, a business organization, or even in couples/relationship training, those four concerns are crutial. I think the hardest part for the consultant is getting people clear on what they want: the objective, defined in a way that makes it measurable.
An interesting part of the problem is a cliche many people grow up with: "It isn't so much what you say as how you say it." Attempting to communicate clearly without others feeling... imposed upon, uncomfortable, threatened is some times just not possible. So that the objective of managing ones life to avoid upsetting people would clearly interefere with the objective of maintaining clear and open communication.
Unspoken but assumed expectations and demands create havoc where ever they exist. Helping people break out of that set of restrictions is a challenge, regardless of whether one calls oneself consultant, trainer, advisor.
A Very interesting business, in any case. Especially in light of many peoples dependency on illusion and obfuscation for their personal success.
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Sue Tosto wrote:
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> I forgot to post my own here. Since I am trying to re-define my niche for coaching, I would like to have a more clear cut picture of how to go about promoting what I can do for people with regard to communication skills, personal boundaries, self confidence and managing their lives effectively. This particular task seems to evade me a little and I tend to lose a little focus. I have taken a small break from marketing and have minimized my coaching efforts, for now, until such time as I feel I have effectively entered all of the necessary tools into my head with regard to communication. There are many! I think that's wise because, I want to come from a place of integrity of course.
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>One reason for this break is the more I learn about communication the more I see how, we as people don't realize how things can evolve so quickly into a misunderstanding or how things do not get addressed in a manner either right from the start or in the alternative later on after the miscommunication has occurred, either on the unspoken level (the stories we tell ourselves about a person or a situation which are not based on fact, or are based on input from others which are still not based on fact) and then fires ignite and it's tough to put out the flames.
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>I have to say the more I see, the more I realise that communication skills are one of the most needed area's in life in coaching as well as everyday conversations either in relationships, work or personal or just a conversation here.
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>So, my goal, would be to find the best way to ... reach people with regard to how important these skills are.
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>> Eric Sohn wrote:
>> Q2 starts Thursday, and we switch (in the US) to Daylight Savings Time on Sunday. So...
>>What goal do you want to accomplish in the next 3 months? What are possible first steps you can take toward that goal? What might prevent you from taking that first step?
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