What if you don't like conflict or confrontational episodes because you have a deep, deep impression that it represents a mean and out of control person who uses explosiveness as a way to make themselves believe they have stayed in control when all they have managed to do is to scare the living hell out of you? And do you see where this explosiveness is a form of manipulation or bullying?
PS: Yes, you might have to break that one down. BTW, the apostle Paul wrote a sentence longer than that.
> Eric Sohn wrote:
Are you saying it's beneficial to invite people to have a heated debate in order to get to the root of the problem? One would think they're rather learn better communication skills.
Having to improvise brings out new ideas. Having to respond to attacks and counterarguments forces responses, which will force you to improvise - and think. Same thing holds if your attack is responded to, but you still don't like the idea - you have to think on your feet to come up with another argument.
Of course, you ducked my question... :`)
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