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| | The Entrepreneurs with ADD Network is not currently active and cannot accept new posts | | Serious Question | Views: 613 | | Sep 26, 2005 4:43 pm | | Serious Question | # | 
Sue T. | | I find that if I don't have sufficient down time, like time to myself or say ... enough adult commucation or interaction during the day ... that I end up feeling incredibally understimulated and bored ... bored may be the wrong word.
Perhaps understimulated enough to not feel motivated ... does this make sense? I end up feeling ... lethargic.
Have any of you experienced this?
Sue T.
Private Reply to Sue T. | | Sep 26, 2005 9:47 pm | | re: Serious Question | # | 
Mari Laura Skjelvik | | Really?
Sue, you can borrow my 3 kids any holiday and then we can talk..hehe..
Serious I have had huge problems staying on task and even doing fun projects due to just blimp things between my ears.
I seriously need to have my me-time and aduly interaction to stay focused.
It is even worse when I have all 3 at home, they are 6, 8 and 9. It is impossible to be able to focus or actually do anything those days, not that they are really in the way, it is just that they steal away the time I usde for interacting with adults , and I do not realise it at all before I sit the just moping around going..BOOORING....
It's like flipping the TV channels every time a comercial comes on, cuz its boooring... anyone know the feeling? That is why I do not have a TV anymore. Stick with the computer and radio.
Is this what your talking about Sue?
I am not sure, been understimulated latly and it dos give me a headache too, a dumb pumping feeling of nothingness..arrgh...
Happy Monday
Mari
Norwegian Coffeeaholic:)Private Reply to Mari Laura Skjelvik | | Sep 26, 2005 11:18 pm | | Mari : Serious Question | # |
Sue T. | | Yah... that's pretty much what I'm talking about. That booooooooring feeling. And I can say the same about my daughter too. She's great! Gives me my quiet time on the computer because I'll do something with her later on, and it teaches her to learn to do that for herself as she gets older too.
So, just yesterday I was typing a really cool response to something in re: relationships, ... blip, ok... still have my thoughts, blip ... ok ok now wait a sec... blip, DAMN! Thoughts all gone :(
I know exactly what you're talking about...I mean people my age, unless I"m going to the wrong places, don't seem to want to "DO" anything! That I like anyway... dancing and stuff... can't blast the music and unwind anymore without 150 questions, interuptions etc., so I find I have to set time down for that... otherwise I just don't get it. By Friday? I'm fried! s'like... god... make it stop.
And you know, we love the little angels and I do things but at the same time, stimulating adult conversation? ugh... "not" about baking or the woman next door ?? And you know, these people aren't into coaching either so you tack that on there and it's like OMG... No mental stimulation.
Or you're getting into a movie right? And then there's 150 more questions... which initially you truly do not mind. Yet you know, when it gets to the 100th question, it's like "watch the movie and find out" ... right? So we miss what we were supposed to see, because we were explaining it, never mind the whole thought process.
For this one? I just get what I want and watch it after she goes to bed, but this can apply to "anything" we're watching... oye. Do I mind? Well... no. At the same time... it's like WOW ...
and you have 3? ooooooooooooooooooooooooooooh my goodness! I understand. Not as to this many but I do get it...
Have you ever seen the Bernie Mack show? LOL That guy is FUNNY!
So lately I've been working on getting myself some adult time but you know, we all have schedules to follow, homework etc., and when they're amusing themselves there's still the noise and distraction, which we'd never ever never give up but it's frustrating... you know? blip... and it's gone...
It's very similar to what I"m talking about. Yes...by george I think you've got it!
:) SuePrivate Reply to Sue T. | | Sep 26, 2005 11:48 pm | | re: Mari : Serious Question | # | 
Warren Simonoff | | Hey, Sue -
So often we forget the tons of fun stuff that we can weave into our schedules. And there are others that share our interests.
Find your favorite spot to relax...probably out of the house...and jot down in preferably a red spiral or loose leaf bound volume with the date, realistically, "What I'd really love to do..." finish that sentence. Let it flow.
After you have a few great areas, make contact with friends or join groups of similar interest. If there's CHADD or ADDA members near you, send them an email for a get-together. Even in close pxoximity to you there may be intrested people.
CherylRichadson.com is also excellent to build groups with similar interests, perhaps also nearby.
So, agreed, life can get borrring. BUT there are connections out there to be made. As a Coach I joined the Greater Phoenix Coaching Alliance. Voila! Instant connections. Or if you want to volunteer to assist others, religious institutions, Red Cross, hospital, etc, there's always a need, and other great people are awaiting your arrival.
We're such great caring group....you can have fun and/or contribute your broad experience.
ENJOY!
Warren
ADD Coach
Private Reply to Warren Simonoff | | Sep 28, 2005 2:52 pm | | Warren : Serious Question | # |
Sue T. | | Hey Warren,
I'm sorry I didn't reply sooner ... all good ideas...
I am moving along at a steady pace in looking into sliding other things into my schedule just for myself. Specifically, Salsa dancing lessons :) and a kick boxing class...So far the Salsa lessons might win out because not only is it entertaining but it's GREAT exercise too! So we shall see...
Volunteering... hmmm ... this is true. I could do that as well. Know what I was thinking? (Not until I tell ya lol) I was thinking about going to a single parents get together... not only would I meet some single parents etc., BUT I'm quite sure some of those single parents would like to get to gether for some coaching. THAT would be a great idea as well. Kill two birds with one stone. Course keep those boundaries in tact. Business is business and friends is friends.
I just had this conversation with a friend of mine the other day too. She referred a "friend" of hers to me and I explained the rules to her... sure but these people are going to pay that's the deal. Otherwise I'd be coaching everyone and their grandparents too :)
Hey I do'nt mind investing my time, you know what I'm saying ....
Later ya'll
Sue T.Private Reply to Sue T. | | Sep 29, 2005 3:43 pm | | re: Serious Question | # | 
Stephanie Frank | | Sue:
I find that when I don't have sufficient down time or adult conversation time, I get overwhelmed with my OWN thoughts and then the fog rolls in.
Funny, I just looked up while typing this and saw a little note I have on my desk. It says "You will NEVER be bored." Boy is that an understatement! I find that when I'm bored, I engage in more activities and then next thing I'm doing too much and then overwhelmed again. Weird and crazy cycle, linked to adrenaline, I'm sure.
Once again though, such a great reinforcement of the amazing people we really are!
Stephanie
P.S. I'm really excited - CHADD picked up one of my press releases about ADD and sent it to its members. That resulted in a company calling us about an ADD program for kids and they started a Stephanie Frank fund to help kids go to this ADD school! Pretty cool, huh?
Private Reply to Stephanie Frank | | Sep 29, 2005 4:32 pm | | re: re: Serious Question | # |
Sue T. | | Yes! this is a terrific developement for you! Congratulations!
As to this ...
"I find that when I don't have sufficient down time or adult conversation time, I get overwhelmed with my OWN thoughts and then the fog rolls in. "
as well as the following paragraph... I recognize I have to pay attention to maintaining a certain ... amount of time for each thing, be it personal, adult, child etc., and to stay motivated requires... knowing myself well. This is important... Otherwise, yes ... one more thing in the pot could just tumble me off the deep end like "what?"
I remember many moons ago, Alex (an attorney I was working for) gave me about agh, 10 things to do in a row. I was about 27 yrs old at the time, so he came out "one more time" and went to give me something else... LOL
I just looked at him as if he weren't there... I said, you have to wait now, I've just reached overload mode. :)
So, I mean recognizing the fog rolling in for what it is, to me is a reasonable thing. I mean I'm quite sure people who do not have ADD can certainly feel thrown under a bus when too much is dealt them as well.
Congratulations on your latest accomplishment again :) That's really terrific :)
Sue T.
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