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|Feb 25, 2007 6:54 pm||Three Tips to Loving Yourself and Being a Better Business Woman||#|
|Hello Women Business Owners:|
1. Your business cannot grow any faster than your personal growth.
If you don't like who you are so much - you may need to work on your self-esteem first because those issues will keep coming up over and over again and keep holding you back and hurting your opportunities for success with your business. These things go hand in hand together. We've all had our own personal growth journey and challenges to gradually develop our confidence - and confidence sells in business. People sense when you are confident and passionate about yourself and what you do - and they gravitate towards confident people.
The more you develop confidence the more you will be willing to try new things and take a few risks to get the word out about you and what you have to offer. If you're dedicated about having a successful business maybe it's time to stop protecting and guarding your current level of confidence (or lack thereof) and self esteem and start looking for ways to grow it. Confidence is attractive and draws people to us - both in business and in our personal life.
2. The world of business is not the world of the childhood sandbox.
Remember when the kids were little at the park and the moms would sit nearby to make sure the kids all played nice? Well, in business this isn't true.
That doesn't mean we want to be mean-spirited or take advantage of anyone - it does mean yes, people make decisions based on appearances or a connection with their personality even more than their skills. It doesn't always seem fair - but it's just business. You can get upset and say it's unfair but this is business - not the sandbox at the park. You can rebel and tell everyone it shouldn't be this way, it shouldn't be about having a professional looking picture or a better looking site - and you might even be right - but it's like trying to push a river upstream. It's business. Not the sandbox.
I've noticed some moms on ryze play up their mom role more than their business owner role. They want to level the playing field and make everything nicey-nice as if competition and marketing didn't exist and they were sitting by the sandbox making sure everyone behaves. Sorry, people don't do business with you because you're a WAHM, they do business with you because they believe in you and your product or service. This is based on my two plus decades of experience in business.
You can say "I'm uncomfortable doing that" and "people shouldn't judge me" but weakness and excuses are not attractive in business. You might be right but a complainer comes across as just that - we still get an impression about you based on your image, your professionalism and the way you promote or donít promote yourself.
Owning a business is not the same as a job. There's constant growth and taking considered risks. One of the biggest risks for a lot of women is getting ourselves out there.
3. When you feel "beat up" take a break.
It may sound un-businesslike but sometimes the most valuable thing you can do is learn to love yourself. Many people are surrounded by other people of low self-esteem and confidence and that negative talk that says, "It isn't fair!" Or, "It shouldn't be that way!" In business you don't change others. You may influence them. But they will only change for their own reasons. And I've often heard it said, "If you argue for your limitations - you get to keep them."
This week was an emotional rollercoaster for several reasons so yesterday I went to a spa and got a massage, a facial, a manicure and a pedicure. What a wonderful treat! Treat yourself Ė at least go for a brisk walk and listen to your favorite music.
Years ago I made the amazing decision that I only wanted people in my life who were supportive and wanted - my highest good for me. When I look back on it - that was pretty audacious and nervy. Who in the heck did I think I was to have supportive people in my life? I'd never had that before. And I was 34. Nothing changed immediately but it gradually led to more decisions that led to me loving myself. Loving myself led to me feeling entitled to more good in my life. And that has made all the difference.
Breathe. Learn to take care of yourself first. Learn to love yourself. Then your business success will follow.
All the best,
Denise Michaels, Author, "Testosterone-Free Marketing"
PS: I'm looking for one very special woman who's serious about her business, tired of the confusion and overwhelm around marketing and who wants and needs my mentoring help. Is this you? Have you been curious but just didn't quite ask me yet? Are you ready to make lots more money? Send me a message for details about how marketing mentoring can help you.
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